Does coming out still matter?

Does coming out still matter?

Before I give you my thoughts on this issue, may I wish Ian Thorpe all the best in the future and honour him for his decision to be true to himself. In spite of all the media attention over the ‘revelation’ in the interview with Sir Michael Parkinson, I know he will find a greater sense of peace in himself. That said I really believe a person’s private life is exactly that, private, but seeing Ian has previously stated he’s ‘heterosexual’ I think it was important he decided to be honest. This matters not only for his own sense of wellbeing, but also to countless other young gay and lesbian people who might now find the courage to no longer live a life in the shadows. I have been in Ian’s shoes. Back in 2004 when I began working on the nationally syndicated 2DayFM drive show I was asked by the hosts if I was happy to be “myself” on-air. At first I had no idea what this really meant, then it dawned on me that if they were talking about what they did on the weekend with their partners, I would have to be open about my life with Jason too. So, the following day hundreds of thousands got to hear about my relationship with Jason. The impact of that hit me the following week when a newspaper published an article about me being the first openly gay newsreader on Australian radio! I became known across the country as Geoff on radio, “the gay newsreader”. To be honest, although I had my reservations I’m glad I did all that because back in 2004 being gay was rarely mentioned on-air....
Love your tattoo?

Love your tattoo?

Don’t take this blog too seriously, I have nothing against people who have tattoos and it is entirely their right to have them. However if you do decide to decorate your body make sure you do it with a clear head and some forward thinking. Tatts are all the rage right now. There’s hardly a pop star who doesn’t have at least one of them. Think Adam Levine, Lady Gaga and Pink! This of course makes tattoos fashionable, but my advice is: Whatever you do, don’t decide to get one at 2am in after you’ve spent a night partying! Remember once you get the ink in your skin it’s pretty much there for good, unless you are prepared to go through a long and at times painful process to have it removed. A story in the Sydney Morning Herald today has also revealed an increase in infections after people have been inked in so-called back-yard parlours that do not follow proper hygienic procedures. Also consider this: What might look good on a 25-year old body may not look so hot when you hit middle age! You only get one body, so think very carefully before you allow a person in a tattoo parlour to get out their equipment and create a “work of art” on your skin. Vote in my poll: Are tattoos hot or...
The real story of the love of my life

The real story of the love of my life

Over the holiday break Jason and I celebrated 21 years together. A lot of people ask how we met and how our relationship has lasted so long. So today I’m putting the record straight. I first bumped into Jason when I was a newsreader at 2GB in 1992. He was answering the phones midnight to dawn and we’d often go out for breakfast at the end of the shift. Several weeks later I plucked up the nerve to ask him out for dinner and as they say, the rest is history. Well almost! That night was memorable; not for the meal but for what happened afterwards! We wound up sitting on the floor in the hallway of the old Exchange Hotel talking the night away… I guess that qualifies as gay romance, lol. Since that night though, we have never been apart. Like any other couple we have our ups and downs, but for 99.9% of the time it’s been amazing and I feel so lucky to have found someone who I know is my soul mate. I believe we have lasted so long because, most importantly, we are best friends. We also share similar views, although we have enough differences to make things interesting! We also give each other space, and I am more than happy for Jason to go and see a show at the Opera House, while I go to a fundraiser or an all-night ABBA party! But for the most part we are happiest when we are at home together. In fact our favourite times are staying at home in our apartment in Potts Point with our...
Is un-following and de-friending the new divorce?

Is un-following and de-friending the new divorce?

Think back six years ago when none of us had twitter and Facebook was tiny. It was a completely different world. We didn’t have the instant ability to publish our inner most thoughts to the world, we couldn’t participate in shows like Q & A and none of us had any idea that every person in the world had the resources to become a journalist – reporting everything from a review of a Gaga concert to an eyewitness account of a King Cross shooting! Since Twitter and Facebook have caught on and become a phenomenon we’ve all had to deal with a new issue : who to follow and friend. Personally I like to follow and friend a mix of celebs, politicians, fellow journalists, but most of all I like people I’ve “met” on social media who I find interesting. Most of the people I follow have become my cyber friends, but every now and then one of them becomes extremely annoying with their late night drunken tweets, and private messages about their less than perfect love life! Recently I had to “unfollow” someone after they kept sending me links, day and night, about a pop star I had no interest in. After unfollowing that person I had a feeling of guilt, in fact it was almost like I was cutting off a friendship. The same thing has happened when I’ve de-friended people on Facebook! Common sense then kicked in, telling me my life was better without inane social media messages about a subject I had no interest in. However the “person” I un-followed sent me a nasty e-mail, accussing me...
Oprah taught me a lesson!

Oprah taught me a lesson!

Some of you may remember I used to do an Oprah segment every morning on the radio when I would quote one of her life affirming phrases. One morning I read one out which has had a profound impact on my life. The queen of daytime television simply said “learn when to say no and don’t overcommit yourself”. That really resonated with me because at the time whenever I was out I would always says “yes” to lunch or dinner dates, and it ended up doing my head in because almost every weekend was spent away from home. I also had a terrible habit of finishing every conversation at a social event with “we must catch up for lunch soon”. Then when it didn’t happen I would have a severe case of the guilts. Thanks to Oprah, nowadays I’ve learnt to end conversations with it’s been great to see you again, or words to that effect. True friends understand that you will always have a bond, even if you don’t have contact with them for a long time. What I’m trying to say is don’t beat yourself up if you don’t see family and friends as often as you would like. We are all in the same boat. I now love seeing old friends when we arrange a catch-up, but I no longer feel the pressure to say “yes” to everything, or feel the need to constantly arrange lunch and dinners. It’s a great feeling when you lose that guilt and realise true friends will remain that way, whether you see them once a month, or once a...
RUOK day and Sydney’s special man who saves lives

RUOK day and Sydney’s special man who saves lives

Today is the third annual RUOK day, which encourages Aussies to connect with people they care about, and help stop little problems turning into big ones. RUOK is an independent non-profit organisation that is concerned about our suicide rate, and the amount of people who suffer mental illness and depression. I’m 100 percent behind this day, because I believe in this world of Facebook and Twitter, more and more people are losing human contact and are actually feeling disconnected from the real world. Make today an excuse to ring your mum, dad , grandparents or brothers and sisters are ask them how they’re doing. It’s amazing how many people are full of guilt and remorse at funerals saying they wish they had kept in contact with loved ones who were having problems. Well today’s the day to make a start. You could also ask a work colleague or even a stranger if they’s OK, you would be surprised what a difference a conversation could make Every year more than 2 thousand Australians take their lives, and for every suicide another 10 attempt it. On top of that hundreds of thousands are struggling with their feelings, and have trouble getting through every day. A special mention for the amazing Donald Ritchie who spend a lot of his spare time at Sydney’s notorious Gap, where he asks people on the verge of suicide to come and have a cup of team with him and discuss their problems. Donald has saved almost 200 lives and has been awarded an OAM. So make RUOK day a success and at least check on a...